#137 Raising Resilient Teens with Dr. Tovah Klein

Flourish Coaching

Aug 27, 2024

In this episode, Lisa and Tovah discuss:

The nuisance stressors your teen has to handle every day.
Building resilience in the face of uncertainty.
What it means to be a buffer for your child.
Parenting styles that have been beneficial or harmful to building resiliency in teams.
Why you have to work on yourself to build resiliency in your children and teens.

Key Takeaways:

Stressors happen to your teen every single day. Helping them through these nuisance stressors will help them build the resilience to handle any stressor.
As a child’s arousal to the stressor increases, the parent tunes in to the child to connect with them in what they need. Over time, your child will learn to manage that stress on their own because they know they are not alone.
Holding healthy boundaries helps your children build resilience. Boundaries can come from a gentle place of care and communication and aren’t harmful. Children need their parents to make the hard decisions and hold those boundaries.
Building resilience in your child begins with you.

“It’s so important that parents be forgiving of themselves because it is in this relationship that our teens learn how to succeed, however, you want to define success, and resilience is part of that success.” – Dr. Tovah Klein

About Dr. Tovah Klein:

Tovah P. Klein, Ph.D. is a psychology professor at Barnard College, Columbia University; Director of the Center for Toddler Development; and author of Raising Resilience: How to Help Our Children Thrive in Times of Uncertainty and How Toddlers Thrive: What Parents Can Do Today for Children Ages 2-5 to Plant the Seeds of Lifelong Success. In her roles as a researcher and professor and in direct care with parents and children for over thirty years, Klein has helped to define what every child needs to thrive, regardless of their life situations. Working worldwide with programs addressing the needs of children, she is highly sought after as a developmental expert on a range of timely topics and an advisor to children’s media and organizations, including National Geographic Kids, AppleTV+, The Children’s Museum of Manhattan, the Hunts Point Alliance for Children, Room to Grow, and Ubuntu Pathways South Africa.

Episode References:

#040 Building Motivation & Stress Tolerance for Happy Teens with Ned Johnson https://www.flourishcoachingco.com/podcast/040-building-motivation-stress-tolerance-for-happy-teens/

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